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December 19th, 2006


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newdance
12:17 pm
I AM SO TIRED OF SELF-PROFESSED "ALLIES" WHO JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!

What's even more annoying is some of these "allies" have a punch here or there on their "queer card" so you almost expect them to be at least a little more "with it," but apparently being somehow "Queer" is no guarantee that you're smart.

[aside:  I've totally considered making "queer cards" for my friends so they could just add a circle or a punch-hole to the terms that apply to their identity.  Hrmm...  I think I have an idea for a party around that....]
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From:montrealais
Date:December 19th, 2006 05:36 pm (UTC)
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Note to the stupid: "Ally" is not like "queer" or "trans" or other terms of identity. You don't get to be it just by calling yourself one. You can't be an ally and continue merrily on being a heterosexist dickhead. You actually have to do some things. Thank you!
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From:nikolche
Date:December 19th, 2006 06:03 pm (UTC)
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...I want a queer card...or at least a gay agenda since apparently I was absent the day they were handed out
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From:redstar826
Date:December 19th, 2006 06:05 pm (UTC)
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yeah, I'm still waiting for my copy of the agenda. Everyone on the religious right seems to have a copy but I still don't have mine. We really need to talk to Headquarters about this.
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From:montrealais
Date:December 19th, 2006 06:19 pm (UTC)
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"Okay, yes, there is a gay agenda, okay? It has just two things on it: 1) don't get killed; 2) a decent brunch. That's it!" - Elvira Kurt
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From:eatmypatriot
Date:December 19th, 2006 11:18 pm (UTC)
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Oh, you missed your copy? Here, you can borrow mine.
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From:swallow_soma
Date:December 19th, 2006 06:24 pm (UTC)
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Oh man. I was literally *just* reading an essay by Sylvia Rivera too, about how the gay community tried to keep her from speaking at the anniversary of Stonewall because of her trans/genderqueerness. It happens. The oppressed becomes the oppressor. And people forget that once, we were all in this mess together. And we still are, even if some people have gotten what they came for.
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From:ishyface
Date:December 19th, 2006 08:36 pm (UTC)
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... What?

STONEWALL WAS ONLY POSSIBLY BECAUSE OF FRIGGIN' DRAG QUEENS!!! Where the HELL do they get off?
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From:nikolche
Date:December 19th, 2006 09:02 pm (UTC)
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Yeah, people tend to forget that key little fact there.
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From:newdance
Date:December 20th, 2006 12:16 am (UTC)
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But Drag is a kind of "performance art", so to speak. I don't know a single Transwoman who was ever a "Drag Queen" and I know several older women with a TS background who remember Stonewall very clearly.
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From:eljuno
Date:December 19th, 2006 07:13 pm (UTC)
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[aside: I've totally considered making "queer cards" for my friends so they could just add a circle or a punch-hole to the terms that apply to their identity. Hrmm... I think I have an idea for a party around that....]

This is a party which I would throw and/or go to myself...
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From:sinful_grrrl
Date:December 19th, 2006 10:12 pm (UTC)
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That ally thing gets to me too. It's almost like when people want an excuse to irritate/harrass/verbally abuse/whatever the partner of a trans person, they put on their "Trans Ally" hats and start harrassing us by aiming at our partner all sneaky like (i.e. "you've got a fetish for transfolk!!!" as if that's the only way one would find a trans person attractive) but people seem afraid to say anything against people like that because they're "allies".

It happens with other queer people as well, but the above is what I've run into thus far.
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From:lordhellebore
Date:December 19th, 2006 11:09 pm (UTC)
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i.e. "you've got a fetish for transfolk!!!" as if that's the only way one would find a trans person attractive

Blegh! Hypocrisy, much? That's incredibly disgusting.

but people seem afraid to say anything against people like that because they're "allies".

And that's the really sad thing about it -- as if being an "ally" somehow makes someone entitled to saying stuff people would balk at when it comes from an "official enemy". Nobody needs this kind of "allies".
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From:newdance
Date:December 19th, 2006 11:54 pm (UTC)
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And sometimes, it's even the partners of Trans* people who are sometimes the most patronising and condescending — rarely to their actual partners, but so often to other Trans* folk, as if they're simply using their partner's TS/TG medical status as an excuse to be objectifying jerks under the guise of "SOFFA".

Just because one's a Significant Other, Friend, or Family-member does not necessarily make them an Ally.
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From:sinful_grrrl
Date:December 20th, 2006 12:00 am (UTC)
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I haven't noticed this yet, since none of my trans friends have partners and I really hope that comment wasn't about me...*hoping she hasn't offended anyone*
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From:phlat
Date:December 21st, 2006 07:06 am (UTC)

yes yes

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yes YES.

then we could also have a punch card for allies.

it would work like this:
they have to do a series of tangible things to actually help and support whoever it is they're proclaiming their alliance with.

and if they don't get all the punches before the alarm goes off, then their ally card gives them a mild electrical shock and turns bright red.

then you could easily spot the electrified, red-card allies.
and avoid them like the plague.

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